How to Meet Russian and Ukrainian Women
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Look in the right places.
You're more likely to find a Russian or Ukrainian woman if you go to
the places where she is most likely to be. There are some obvious places
to find these women, but there are some other less-known locations to
find them as well. Here's where you can begin your search:
- Obviously, go to Russia or Ukraine. There will be plenty of Russian and/or Ukrainian women there.
- Other countries that were formerly in the Soviet Union, such as Latvia, Estonia, or Belarus.
- Places in America with large immigrant communities, especially the New York and New Jersey area.
- Almost any major city has a sizable Russian population if you know
where to look. Check out the Russian restaurants and clubs in your area.
For example, if you're in New York City, Brighton Beach will be full of
beautiful Russian women. Most cities have their own Facebook page for
events for the Russian community. Ask to join.
- Check out online dating websites. If you really want to meet a
Russian or Ukrainian woman, look at the profiles of beautiful women
online. Most women have lots of Russian pride and will say so in their
profiles. Look out for common Russian or Ukrainian names like Katya,
Masha, Irina, Tanya, Olga, or Sasha.
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Learn how to spot a Russian or Ukrainian woman by her looks.
If you're at a Russian and Ukrainian friendly location but aren't sure
if the girl you have eyes on is a true Russian or Ukrainian, there are
some tricks to being able to tell what country the girl hails from. Of
course, there is no fool-proof way to spot a Russian woman because they
are as diverse as any other women on the planet. Still, there are a few
things to increase their chances of being Russian or Ukrainian:
- See if they are overdressed. If they are wearing leather pants, high
heels, sparkly tops, and chunky earrings to a casual event like a happy
hour or even a coffee shop, they may be Russian or Ukrainian, because
these women take pride in looking their best under any circumstances.
- See if they have high heels. These women just love wearing high heels to show off their great legs.
- See if they've taken time to groom their hair and put on a healthy amount of makeup.
- One type of Russian or Ukrainian woman is tall, blonde, slender, withe blue eyes and beautiful cheekbones.
- However, keep in mind that many Russian women in America are Jewish
immigrants, and have a different look. They have black hair and brown
eyes and are just as beautiful as the more common conception of Russian
women.
- If she doesn't smile every chance she gets. Russian women are kind,
generous, and have a fantastic sense of humor. However, they will be
less likely to have an open face and to smile and say "How are you?" to
any stranger who passes by. You have to earn their trust first.
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- Learn to tell if a woman is Russian or Ukrainian because of what she says.
In most cases, if you're chatting up a Ukrainian or Russian girl, she
will let you know where she's from within the first five minutes. These
women are proud of who they are and will find a way to say, "Hey, I'm
Russian," no matter what subject you're discussing. However, if your
lady doesn't bring it up, here are a few hints that she may be from the
Mother Country:
- If she asks you what your New Year's plans are even though it's only August.
- If she talks about how much she loves her family, especially her grandmother, who may live with her parents.
- If she prefers vodka over tequila, whisky, or another hard alcohol.
This may be a stereotype, but many Russian and Ukrainian women really do
prefer vodka over other types of hard liquor.
- If she does not drink. Russian and Ukrainian women may have had alcoholics in their family. Typically a male relative.
- If she casually mentions that her dad is the most amazing man in the world.
- If she has a background in gymnastics, dance, or mentions that she plays the piano like a pro.
- If soccer or hockey is her family's spectator sport of choice.
- If talks about something having a "soul."
- If she rolls at her eyes, complains and/or shakes her head at something Americans do.
Method 2 of 4: Having a Strong Approach
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Be confident. Russian
and Ukrainian women like their men to have confidence. Many of them have
a healthy self-confidence and don't want to waste their time trying to
tell their man how great he is. When you meet the woman, you should
already be confident in who you are and what you do. Now, it's matter of
letting her know you're a confident person. Here's how:
- Use the body language of a confident person. Make eye contact
instead of looking at the floor, stand tall instead of slouching, and
use your arms to gesture instead of folding them.
- Show that you're confident in your appearance. To show a woman you
care about how you look, wear well-fitting and clean clothes, and take
the time to groom yourself by showering and washing your hair. Russian
women may like a little facial scruff, but make sure it looks
purposeful, and not like you just forgot to shave.
- Be positive about your life. Talk about how much you love your
friends, your family, and your job. There's no need to lie if you're not
happy with all aspects of your life, but you should focus on talking
about the things you love and leave the rest for later. This will make
the woman see that you love who you are and she'll be more likely to
love you, too.
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Be capable. Russian
women want real men who can take care of themselves and are useful
around the house. They want a man who knows what's going on because
Russian women know what's going on and don't want to waste their time
educating anyone. Here are some ways to show that you're capable:
- Have a career that you love. Your profession says a lot about you,
and your work should say that you can get things done, be a leader, and
manage your time well.
- Have useful skills. You should know how to fix your car, fix things around the house, and how to drive like a pro.
- If you take her out to eat, you should know what to order. If you're
out for a drink, you should know the best cocktail on the menu.
- You don't have to pay for everything, but make it clear that you are not a freeloader.
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Have a sense of humor.
People who say Russians are gruff or have no sense of humor are
completely wrong. Russians simply have a different kind of sense of
humor that relies more on sarcasm, anecdotes, wordplay, and cheekiness.
Here's how to make a Russian girl laugh:
- Tell a funny story that makes you the hapless protagonist. Don't take it too far and make yourself look incapable, though.
- Make witty observations about the world around you. Mention
something about the difference between New Jersey and New York, for
example.
- Learn the art of quick banter. Be sharp, and learn to handle a quick
back-and-forth conversation with your lady. You have to think on your
feet.
- Learn not to take things literally. Russians love saying the
opposite of what they mean (irony), and you should be able to recognize
when your lady's tone is not sincere. If you don't catch on, you may
look simple.
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Show your softer side---but only a little bit.
Once your Slavic sweetie is wowed by your confidence, capability, and
sense of humor, you can open up to her a little bit to show that you
have a sensitive side. Choose the right time to reveal your deeper
emotions. Here's how to do it:
- Mention how much you love the elders in your family. If you tell her
how much you love your grandmother (your Babushka), and how you call
her every single day, she will be brought to tears.
- Talk about your siblings, and how protective you are over them. This
will show that you can help her take charge of your household.
- If you have a pet cat or dog, talk about how much you love them in a
non-embarrassing way. Show her pictures if she's interested.
Method 3 of 4: Showing Your Love for Mother Russia (or Ukraine)
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Understand the difference between a Russian and a Ukrainian girl.
Basically, it's complicated. The Ukraine was a part of the Soviet Union
until 1991. Before the collapse of the Soviet Union, all people under
its power were considered to be Russian, whether they wanted to be or
not. But Ukraine is a separate country with its own customs, language,
and culture. The fastest way to annoy a Russian or Ukrainian woman is to
not understand this difference. Here's what you need to know:
- If you're in Russia, the native women there will consider themselves Russian. If you're in Ukraine, the native women there today will consider themselves Ukrainian for the most part. Unless their heritage is Russian.
- If you're in America, many Ukrainian immigrants from the capital
city of Kiev will actually consider themselves Russian because the
country was still considered to be a part of the USSR when they lived
there and because they grew up speaking the Russian language. Before
1991, Russian was the language spoken in schools, used in newspapers,
and in every day life in Kiev, but now, Ukrainian is used in schools,
advertisements, and some television shows, though many city people still
speak Russian at home.
- Don't tease the women from Ukraine who consider themselves Russian
by saying, "What, are you ashamed of being from Ukraine?" Again---it's
complicated. Just don't even go there.
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Learn the Russian or Ukrainian language.
Russian and Ukrainian languages with their own alphabet and unique way
of speech. These women will be truly impressed if you have learned their
native languages in school, on your own, or through a study abroad
program. They will also be impressed if you show an interest in learning
the language. Here's what to do:
- Before you approach her, learn a few key phrases. Don't use them
right away because that will just look corny, but using Russian phrases
when the time is right will impress her. Here are a few words to say in
Russian:
- "Kak dela?" simply means, "What's up?"
- "Krasavitsa" means "a beauty." "Ti krasavitsa" means, "you are a beauty."
- "Dasvedaniya" means "goodbye" and "paka" is a more casual way of saying goodbye.
- "Prekrasno" means "amazing."
- "Ya tebya lyublu" means "I love you."
- "Ochen priyatno" is what you should say after you meet her family. It roughly means "Nice to meet you."
- Ask your lady to speak Russian to you if she wants to. Don't be
annoying about it---many Russian women are sick of everyone asking them
to speak their language.
- If you are serious about dating a Russian or Ukrainian woman, you
should try to learn her native language as much as you can. It will show
a respect for her culture and will allow you to really understand her
family.
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Develop a fondness for Russian and Ukrainian cuisine.
If you don't already love Russian and Ukrainian food or don't know what
it is, it's important to know and love a few key foods so you and your
lady can cook together and so you can fit in at her family's dinner
table. Here are a few basics:
- Russians love dill and sour cream and can find a way to sneak it
into most dishes, such as mashed potatoes. They don't go light on the
salt, either.
- Borsch is a traditional beet-based soup that should be served hot with a healthy dose of sour cream.
- Pickled vegetables, such as tomatoes, pickles, and sauerkraut are key staples in a Russian household.
- Russians love their meats, from cold cuts, such as salami or ham, to Beef Stroganoff. They also don't say no to salmon.
- If you're dating a true Russian or Ukrainian woman, being a vegetarian is a near impossibility.
- Russians love salads with a healthy dose of mayo. One of their
favorites is called Salad Olivier (originally french), which is a mix of
mayo, ham, peas, and other vegetables.
- Blini, which is a thin crepe, are excellent with caviar, some honey and sugar, or---you guessed it---sour cream.
- Learn to love black bread.
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Understand Russian and Ukrainian superstitions and customs.
In order to understand the workings of your new lady's mind, you'll
have to have a sense of the quirks and traditions that make her culture
unique. Knowing about these in advance will earn you lots of bonus
points. Here are a few of them:
- Don't hug, hand anything over, or do anything important in a door way. It's a threshold that is meant only to be crossed.
- Before you leave for a journey, you must sit down for a minute to reflect on the trip ahead.
- If you accidentally step on her foot, she has to step on yours, or you will get in a fight.
- Don't use gestures to show something bad, such as touching your own body to show where your friend was hurt. This is bad luck.
- Don't ever wish her a happy birthday before her actually birthday because---believe it or not---it's bad luck.
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Respect Russian and Ukrainian culture.
Even if you don't know a lot about Russian films, literature, or
artists, you should at least show a respect for the achievements of her
people instead of seeing them as stereotypes. After all, she may not be
the most well-read person in the world, but a few key insights will
impress her:
- Without being too nerdy, tell her that your favourite writers are Pushkin, Turgenev, Chekhov, Dostoevsky, and Tolstoy.
- Know that Battleship Potemkin is an amazing film.
- Know who Yuri Gagarin, Gorbachev, and Peter the Great are, just to name a few figures.
- Don't make dumb jokes about her culture, like asking her if her dad
is in the Russian mob or wanting to know if she knows any Ukrainian
mail-order brides. This will show that you only see her culture as a
stereotype.
Method 4 of 4: Making her Feel Special
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Compliment her without going overboard.
Russian and Ukrainian women are quick to tell when you're being phony,
but letting the woman know that there are many things you like about her
in a sincere way can take your conversation to the next level. Here's
what you do:
- Make a few observations about things you like about her personality.
If she tells you about a struggle she had, say, "You must be a very
strong person," or if she has a great sense of humor, mention it.
- Once you're comfortable, move on to compliment her features, such as her nice eyes or her scintillating laugh.
- Compliment by teasing. If she tells you she loves to read, say that
she's the cutest nerd you've ever met. Don't hurt her feelings, but show
that you can joke around.
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Let her know you like her for who she is, not where she comes from.
Russian and Ukrainian women are used to being fetishized and if you
make them think that you only like them because they are exotic, or
known to be beautiful, they will quickly be turned off. Here's what you
should do:
- Show an interest in her life by asking about her passions outside of
your culture. Talk about her hobbies, her friends, or her job.
- Try not to ask too many questions about Russia or Ukraine right away unless she is open about it.
- Don't tell her that your last three girlfriends were Russian, or
that she reminds you exactly of some Russian girl you know---this will
not make her feel special.
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Ask her out. If you've
hit it off with your new lady, it's time to take your meeting to the
next level. To ask out a Russian woman, you have to be a true gentleman
and show that you're worth dating. Here's how:
- Be direct. Russian women are forward and will appreciate if you can ask them out with confidence.
- Be a gentleman. Take her coat, buy her a drink, and hold a door for
her. Do gentlemanly things to show that you will be a great date.
- When the time for the date comes, look your best and bring flowers.
And don't be surprised if your girl is a little bit late---maintaining
her good looks is hard work!
